What is the best thing that we can give our kids? Hands down- “a totally gross them out” type love with our spouse. So many times we focus so much of our attention on our children, our church, our activities, houses, and stuff to really give our kids what they really need the most; a genuine love between their parents. We catch ourselves coming and going so much, to really enjoy being with the people we claim to love the most. The reality of the situation is that our kids will be gone one day, and guess what? We will have to live with the one that gets neglected the most.
This blog isn’t meant to put guilt on anyone’s shoulders, but it is to have us question…. Are we truly LOVING the people God put in our lives to have and to hold from this day forward? Do we unconditionally love our spouses to the point that our kids are grossed out by the look on our faces when the other walks into the room.
That is what they need.
That is what they desire.
That is what we desire.
Grown adults need verbal, physical, and spiritual affirmation by their, Beloved, God has given them. As well as, unconditional love and respect (Ephesians 5:25).
I struggled, and still struggle, to unconditionally RESPECT my husband. God has taught me so much about Himself through my spouse. Like many, there have been multiple times in our marriage of 15+ years- that without Christ, we wouldn’t have made it. Many of the following tips have been passed on to us through much wiser, more seasoned couples, who love Jesus. God has revealed so much about our selfishness and need for Christ through this crazy thing called marriage.
The best thing we can do for our kids is to seek the LORD’S face and LOVE and RESPECT our spouses. Marriage will never be perfect- there are always sin issues, but our BELOVED is ours and we need to cherish them and treat them like we should. Date each other, be intentional, be creative, enjoy who God made for you. Go ahead; you have tried other ways to survive your marriage. Why not enjoy your marriage!
Katie Jo Hook grew up in a ministry, where she saw the grace of Jesus change lives. Her passion is to address our sinful nature, but FOCUS on JESUS and HIS saving GRACE.